I know we’re not supposed to be buying anything for ourselves this holiday season, but there’s no harm in sharing a wish list so that other people can get things for us, right? haha
Top 10 on my Christmas Wishlist:
1. chanel classic flap bag 2. spotify giftcards 3. dior addict lip glow 4. Q&A a day couples 3 year journal 5. REI flash 18 pack
6. speedball calligraphy set 7. lifeproof iphone 5 case 8. sodastream starter kit 9. f1′s 4-in-1 adapter 10. crosley portable turntable
Top 10 on Jacob’s Christmas Wishlist:
1. minaal protravel carry-on bag 2. playstation four 3. patagonia men’s capilene three midweight bottoms 4. field notes
5. stealth hoodie lt 6. canon 100mm f/2.8L macro lens 7. outdoor research dry ditty sacks 8. craft beer club membership
9. cards against humanity 10. complete series of breaking bad on blu-ray
Confessions Of a Bad Gift Receiver / Giver:
1. I don’t like gift giving during Christmas. I will admit that I am a practical person rather than a romantic when it comes to gift giving. I am relieved when people share their wish lists, because it lifts the burden of having to find the perfect gift. I don’t have the innate ability to find thoughtful gifts on short notice. It usually takes me a long time unless fate has it that I happen to stumble across something perfect. I love most everything else about Christmas, but gift giving is not one of them. I do enjoy giving gifts, but I like giving gifts because it’s a perfect fit for the person, not because it’s what you do during Christmas. If I do find something worthwhile, my solution to this problem is to hold onto it until it’s the “proper time” to give it. Patience is not my strong suite, so a part of me dies inside not being able to give it to them right away.
2. I’m a terrible person to shop for. Jacob can tell you. There haven’t been many gifts that I didn’t return or exchange. I always appreciate the person and the effort made to find the gift, but I don’t believe in keeping something around purely for sentimental reasons. Maybe that’s why I’m the ice queen. My parents, knowing this, started giving me cold, hard cash pretty early on. On the flip side, I don’t get offended if the gift I give someone is returned or exchanged as long as they are honest with me. It helps me learn more about the person, and I’d rather they end up with what they really need or want. I find it more offensive when gifts end up collecting dust in some lost corner of their house. To me, it’s a waste of money, and I never learn what they like.
Also, I won’t claim to be a minimalist (now that I’ve done my research, I can’t even touch those guys), but I believe in the principles. I believe that space in our home is valuable real estate. I believe in quality over quantity, and everything in our home is there because it deserves the space it takes up. There really isn’t much that I like to keep around the house, so that means I’m picky. Hate that word, but I gotta own up to it. My close friends have realized this and tend to give me experiences (take me to get nails done, spa day, etc) or consumables (food, shampoo, new beauty products to try)… something that’s not going to stay for too long.
Having said all this, I realize that people are all different, and I might need to show some restraint in this area and meet them where they are at. I guess there is such a thing as gift etiquette. I’m usually an honest person, and I don’t feel the need to candy coat anything, but sometimes it’s better to just say thank you and keep your mouth shut. I just hope they never go digging in my house for it. And if they ask me about it.. I cannot lie.. so I will awkwardly dismiss myself from the conversation.
Also, I take back what I said in my second confession about never keeping things for purely sentimental reasons. It’s not entirely true. The one thing I do keep around for sentimental reasons are personal cards and notes. Words of affirmation is my love language, and if someone writes something thoughtful, chances are I will find a special home for it (and I don’t mean the trash.. I have no idea why my mind went there when I said that. For real, I do keep it). I will take a card or written note over a gift any day.
What do you think about giving gifts during the holidays? What do you do when you receive something that you don’t like? Do you re-gift, exchange, return it? With or without them knowing? Do you keep it in storage, so you can dig it out in case they ask about it? Do you actually try to use it / display it for the sake of the other person?